Existing LLM unlearning methods struggle with robustness: unbounded forget losses degrade model coherence, fixed-weight balancing cannot adapt as retain difficulty shifts mid-training, and methods that work on one benchmark falter under scaling or repeated application. We propose BLADE, a constrained bilevel framework whose three mechanisms give smooth, predictable control over the optimization landscape: a clamped-entropy forget loss whose gradient is exactly zero once a token reaches sufficient uncertainty; an asymmetric augmented Lagrangian that permanently ratchets retain protection after any violation; and a bilevel structure confined to LoRA adapters that repairs retain damage before each forgetting step. BLADE dominates across three benchmark families, improving average composite scores over the strongest baselines by 6% on TOFU, 9% on MUSE Books, and 7% on KnowUndo, and it remains stable under 4× scaling and 4 sequential unlearning steps on MUSE News where the best competing method collapses entirely.