Linear attention enhances inference efficiency of Transformer and has attracted research interests as an efficient backbone of language models. Existing linear attention based models usually exploit decay factor based positional encoding (PE), where attention scores decay exponentially with increasing relative distance. However, most work manually designs a non-trainable decay factor of exponential calculation, which limits further optimization. Our analysis reveals directly training decay factor is unstable because of large gradients. To address this, we propose a novel PE for linear attention named Disentangle to Decay (D2D). D2D disentangles decay factor into two parts to achieve further optimization and stable training. Moreover, D2D can be transformed into recurrent form for efficient inference. Experiments demonstrate that D2D achieves stable training of decay factor, and enhances performance of linear attention in both normal context length and length extrapolation scenarios.